Help a Friend

It’s not easy to know what to do when someone you love is in an abusive relationship or has experienced a sexual assault. The following steps may help:

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• Ask, “Are you OK?”

• Listen to and believe your loved one. Survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault often fear they won’t be believed. Your trust and validation matter.

• Allow them to make their own choices. If they are not ready to leave, call the police, or report the assault, don’t pressure them. Instead, connect them with local resources.

• Offer a safe space. This could mean a place to stay, a ride to a support group, or a quiet, nonjudgmental environment to talk.

• Help with practical needs. If childcare, finances, or transportation are barriers, offer assistance where you can.

• Respect their boundaries. For survivors, physical touch or asking for details may be triggering. Let them decide what they want to share.

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Asking the simple question, “Are you OK?” can open the door to further conversation and disclosure. Following with, “I’m concerned for your safety” can create an emotionally safe space for them to talk. Survivors of both domestic violence and sexual assault may minimize what happened or struggle to speak about it. False reports are rare, and many incidents go unreported.

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We understand that every survivor is the expert in their own life. There are many valid reasons why someone may stay in or return to an abusive relationship, or choose not to report a sexual assault. The journey to safety and healing can be long. But survivors can begin to reclaim their strength when they walk alongside someone who supports them, believes in them, and helps them see the possibilities beyond the pain.

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If you would like to brainstorm with us how best to help a friend or family member, give us a call at one of our hotline numbers below.